Thursday, August 31, 2006

Desperate Catholics find "rent-a-priests" online

by Holly McKenna

ALBANY, New York (Reuters) - Some are Catholics who see their church as stuck in the past. Others are believers who happen to be divorced, pregnant before marriage or gay. A few just can't find a priest when they need one.

Roman Catholics shunned by the official church are "renting" married priests in times of crisis and celebration.

They turn to http://www.rentapriest.com, a Web site with 2,500 Catholic priests in a national database known as "God's Yellow Pages."

Virtually all the priests in the database have left their official clerical ministries due to the Roman Catholic Church's mandatory celibacy rule, but they continue to conduct weddings, usually for a fee, while performing baptisms, last rites and funerals for free, in keeping with the practice of officially recognized priests.

"We are doing Jesus' work and apparently the church isn't," said Louise Haggett, director of Celibacy Is The Issue (CITI) ministries, which runs the site and helped arrange 3,000 weddings last year.

The group also is working to change the Catholic church's ban on married priests.

Haggett said the Internet is a popular source for rent-a-priests because there is a shortage. Twenty-seven percent of U.S. parishes lack a resident priest, according to a U.S. Conference of Bishops study.

Priests are aging, churches are closing and fewer priests are being ordained. The church knows there are fewer priests than decades ago but there are plenty to meet the spiritual needs of the faithful, said Ron Menty of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Albany.

"Sometimes the reason why people go to this source concerns the rules, regulations and expectations of the church," Menty said. "Sometimes a priest outside the community feels freer in providing services."

The going rate for a wedding in New York is about $500, cheaper in other states.

FAITHFUL TO JESUS, NOT RULES

Haggett founded the site in 1992 when her mother was in a nursing home and unable to find a parish priest.

CITI locates, recruits, certifies and promotes married or gay Roman Catholic priests. Haggett said 21 canons in church law validate married priests.

But the church does not recognize these priests because they violated their vows, said Ken Goldfarb, spokesman for the Roman Catholic Diocese of Albany.

The church does recognize some married Protestants who became priests later in life.

"These rent-a-priests have already taken their vows, then married. That's the distinction," Goldfarb said.

Richard Hasselbach, who married after he was a priest for 13 years, defends the organization because many people are turned off by what he calls the inflexibility and rigidity of "the corporate Catholic Church."

He routinely marries people who are divorced, pregnant or gay and counsels people who were sexually abused by Roman Catholic priests. He celebrates Mass in his home and performs marriages outside of church buildings. The Roman Catholic Church does not allow wedding ceremonies to be held outside.

Jim and Mary Ann Graves of Batavia, Illinois, were married in their backyard by Bob Scanlan, whom they found on the Web site. Both were raised Catholic, married for the first time in the church, and then divorced. Together they have eight children.

"We never considered an annulment because it's a real hassle," Mary Ann Graves said. "We were looking for something different than the first time, but we wanted a religious and spiritual ceremony."

Faith is a relationship with Christ and not about rules and dogma, Hasselbach said. "Once you're a priest, you're always a priest," he said. "If I fail to respond to the call to minister, I do so at my own peril."

Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Serving Those Abandoned by the Corporate Church

On Monday afternoon I had a call from a hospice chaplain with Group Health asking if I could provide the sacrament of the sick for one of her clients who was approaching death. Faced with the difficulty in getting access to local Catholic priests she has turned to me on many occasions in the past. Sometimes I am able to "push the right buttons" at the appropriate local parish to get a priest there and arrange for the person to be included in regular communion rounds. In this case, death was imminent, and a delay in making arrangements was not appropriate.

I arrived at the adult care facility on the other side of Seattle from my home the next morning at 10am and met Appolonia Cobala, a devout Polish lady in her 80's, and her loving daughter Helen. Helen explained that she had called 12 different nearby parishes the day earlier and was unable to arrange for a priest to visit her mother. She was most appreciative for my prompt response, adding that she fully supported a married clergy.

We had a very beautiful celebration of the sacrament of the sick together. She then asked if I could assist her with a graveside service at the local Catholic cemetery when her mom passed. I explained that unfortunately the previous auxiliary bishop had issued an edict banning any resigned priests and me explicitly in doing so. Although any layman is allowed to conduct graveside services at Catholic cemeteries, or clergy from any other denomination, the one group that is barred is resigned priests. She was sad to hear about this. I told her to call me and I could put her into contact with a canonical priest who would provide a nice service when her mother passed.

This exchange brought out in microcosm the continued tragedy of the ripple effect of the current clergy shortage as well as the vindictive polices of the Institution toward resigned priests. Over and over again, good Catholics pay the price for these narrow policies that place mandatory celibacy over the pastoral care of God's people. A close friend shared a similar story regarding the difficulty in finding a priest to annoint his Dad, a daily Mass Catholic in his 90's who sent 2 sons into the priesthood and has generously supported the Church over his long lifetime. It was Louise Haggett's frustration with finding pastoral care for her dear mother that ultimately lead her to launch CITI. And it goes on and on.

I felt privileged to be able to respond to Helen's efforts to find help for her mother Appolonia. But how many similar needs go unmet and how many good Catholics become more and more disillusioned by this indifference to their sacramental needs and rejection of the many resigned priests ready to respond?

Fr. Pat Callahan
Married Catholic Priest
Seattle

Serving Those Abandoned by the Corporate Church

On Monday afternoon I had a call from a hospice chaplain with Group Health asking if I could provide the sacrament of the sick for one of her clients who was approaching death. Faced with the difficulty in getting access to local Catholic priests she has turned to me on many occasions in the past. Sometimes I am able to "push the right buttons" at the appropriate local parish to get a priest there and arrange for the person to be included in regular communion rounds. In this case, death was imminent, and a delay in making arrangements was not appropriate.

I arrived at the adult care facility on the other side of Seattle from my home the next morning at 10am and met Appolonia Cobala, a devout Polish lady in her 80's, and her loving daughter Helen. Helen explained that she had called 12 different nearby parishes the day earlier and was unable to arrange for a priest to visit her mother. She was most appreciative for my prompt response, adding that she fully supported a married clergy.

We had a very beautiful celebration of the sacrament of the sick together. She then asked if I could assist her with a graveside service at the local Catholic cemetery when her mom passed. I explained that unfortunately the previous auxiliary bishop had issued an edict banning any resigned priests and me explicitly in doing so. Although any layman is allowed to conduct graveside services at Catholic cemeteries, or clergy from any other denomination, the one group that is barred is resigned priests. She was sad to hear about this. I told her to call me and I could put her into contact with a canonical priest who would provide a nice service when her mother passed.

This exchange brought out in microcosm the continued tragedy of the ripple effect of the current clergy shortage as well as the vindictive polices of the Institution toward resigned priests. Over and over again, good Catholics pay the price for these narrow policies that place mandatory celibacy over the pastoral care of God's people. A close friend shared a similar story regarding the difficulty in finding a priest to annoint his Dad, a daily Mass Catholic in his 90's who sent 2 sons into the priesthood and has generously supported the Church over his long lifetime. It was Louise Haggett's frustration with finding pastoral care for her dear mother that ultimately lead her to launch CITI. And it goes on and on.

I felt privileged to be able to respond to Helen's efforts to find help for her mother Appolonia. But how many similar needs go unmet and how many good Catholics become more and more disillusioned by this indifference to their sacramental needs and rejection of the many resigned priests ready to respond?

Fr. Pat Callahan
Married Catholic Priest
Seattle